Monday, August 11, 2008

Hot Fun in the Summertime: Sexcations

As we wind down the dog days of summer, I thought I'd do a few posts on summer lovin', just to help you make the end of summer a sizzler. Today we're talking about taking a sexcation.

A WMS sexcation is a variation on the currently very popular staycation. These days with skyrocketing fuel costs and tight family budgets, vacation plans have fallen to the wayside for many of us. This is such a shame because one great reason to go on vacation is because you'll have better sex than you would at home. Seriously.
It's been scientifically proven!

According to research from the Kinsey Institute for Research in Sex, Gender and Reproduction, the reason couples don't have a lot of sex at home is because in our normal lives, we get stressed out. And anxiety doesn't exactly put us in the mood (this is especially true for women). On the other hand, when you're in a good mood, you're more likely to be frisky.

Think about it. How often do you have sex when you're at home? What about when you're on vacation? And when is the last time you and your beloved spent the day/weekend in bed simply being lovers ? Pushing aside your relationship roles and simply enjoying the carnal pleasure of being with each other.
The kids are in camp or off to grandma''s time for you to treat each other to a little sexcation.

You need not go far, but if possible, try to take it out of the house. Check into local hotel with the intent of seeing very little of it besides the room, except maybe the pool. A flirtatious frolic in the pool is a great break that will help keep you in the mood.

A few suggestions:

1) Pick a hotel within your budget, preferably one that has room service. Many hotels offer romance packages that include champagne, chocolates and other amenities that literally help give you a little more bang for your buck. If you choose to stay at home, make sure you create an environment conducive to romance. Clean it, spritz it, make it a sensual wonderland for your weekend, and stock the cupboards with easy eats that can become part of the sexcation experience.

2) Just like any vacation, prepare accordingly. Days before your escapde, refrain from having actual sex but definitely keep sex on the brain. Flirt, tease, kiss, self-pleasure. This is a perfect time to create your sexipe box (see August flirt tip)and will give you some sightseeing activities to look forward to! This also makes it clear that this is a vacation built on mutual pleasure.

3) Pack light, this is definitely a clothing optional vacation. Bring with you anything that you find comfortable and makes you feel sexy and desirable, and most importantly, bring a fun and spontaneous attitude. Pack up your sensual trick bag...candles (best that you bring votives where the flame is low so you don't risk starting a fire), massage oils, sexy music (think about including one of those ocean soundtracks, great for creating a island mood), maybe a little bedtime reading.

4) A sexcation is a perfect opportunity to reconnect on an intimate level but don't ruin it by having unrealistic sexpectations. Like I've said before, anticipate everything but expect nothing. Don't put pressure on yourself to put on some kind of porn star performance this vacation, but rather look at this like you would any themed opportunity to explore and learn, to relax and be spontaneous, to laugh and enjoy each other, to rediscover each other in a pleasurable environment.

What do you think?

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