New Stiletto U Workshop--Sexitude!

A Sensual Workout for Mind and Body

Sexy is as Sexy Does

What’s your Sexitude? In other words: How do you feel about your sexy self? Have you ever wished you were sexier? Felt more confident in your ability to attract and entice your lover? Wished that you had the courage to match your sensual thoughts with your sexual actions?

Welcome to Sexitude, a three-week, sensual workout designed to unleash the sensuous, sexy you. Whether single or married, young or seasoned, sexually active or celibate, Sexitude is for you. It’s a fun and tasteful combination of mind and movement with the ultimate goal of making you feel comfortable and sexy in your own skin.

Change Your Sexitude, Change Your Life

A confident woman is a sexy woman! During this workout we will talk about ways to bring out the incomparable woman hiding behind all those unrealistic expectations (yours and others), and then teach you how to move it, work it and own it! You’ll learn:

• Ways to bring your sexy back
• How to wake up your mind and body to amp up your love life
• How to move with sensual confidence
• Exercises to make you a stronger and more confident lover

Your Sexitude Instructors

Sexy Mind: Lori Bryant-Woolridge is a best-selling author, sensuality coach and founder of Stiletto U, a program advocating healthy, sensuous lifestyles. She has conducted sensuality classes and workshops around the country, and has been featured in local and national media, including: The Seattle Times, Detroit Free Press, Essence Magazine, Romantic Times, Working Mother Magazine, and Psychologies Magazine¸ and has appeared on numerous radio and television shows across the country.


Sexy Moves: Benita Perkins is a certified instructor and personal trainer. A former professional dancer with the Philadelphia Dance Company, she is the founder of Bennie Girl Health and Wellness Events, Inc., a production company focused on the fitness needs and healthy lifestyles of women. Benita has been hired by various companies and organizations to promote her healthy message, including: Pepsi, American Heart Association, American Diabetes Association, and the NAACP, and has been featured in several national publications including: Heart and Soul, Ebony and Essence Magazines. www.benniegirl.com

Grab a friend, join us and get your summer sizzle on!

Three Thursdays, July 16, 23, 30, 2009
7:30-9:30 pm

Sharon Miller Academy
14 South Park Street 2nd Floor
Montclair, NJ

Tuition: $49 for three sessions
Register NOW! Space is Limited.

For more information or to register email us at
stilettou@yahoo.com and put Sexitude as the subject.

Sexitude is a co-production of Stiletto U and Bennie Girl Health and Wellness

Celebrate your Senses Today

June 24, 2009 has been declared "Celebration of the Senses" day. Okay, I'm not sure by whom, but it works for me, especially if it gives you an 'official' reason to make today a particularly sensuous experience.

Celebrate Your Senses day can be shared with the one you love or the one you're with, even if that 'one' is the one and only you. In a perfect world, you would celebrate it both ways, together and alone.

It doesn't have to be a big, fancy affair. Just so long as you treat yourself to a five sense stimulating experience. It could be as simple as enjoying an ice cream cone together, giving witness to the sweet, sugary smell, the creamy, delicious taste and smooth texture of the ice cream dissolving in your mouth, while enjoying the sights and sounds of the world going on around you. And sharing your ice cream adds an entirely different layer of sensuality to the experience!

You could prepare a meal that sensuous in nature from the menu right down to the table decor and wine selection. Mindful eating--taking the time to enjoy and experience each bite--makes the usual gulp and run pale in comparison. Or maybe you'd prefer a long, luxurious, candlelight soak in the tub followed by a sensual rubdown of your favorite oil or lotion.

It could be all day affair like a day at the beach where you can smell and taste the salt air, hear and see the crashing waves of the ocean, and feel the sand between your toes. Or sitting inside, listening to the rain fall, wrapped up in your silkiest jammies, while enjoying some decadently expensive chocolates, What a way to celebrate your senses!

The point is, it doesn't matter what you do as long as you you do it. It doesn't even matter if it doesn't happen tonight. The beauty of celebrating life through your senses is that it can happen anywhere at any time! And it should!

Zumba!!

Still on my sensual movement soapbox. Last night I took my first Zumba class. It was taught by one of my best friends, Benita Perkins, who is a dancer and fitness trainer. It was FANTASTIC!! To everyone's surprise (I'm not a huge cardio exercise person...okay that's a big fat understatement)I was movin' and groovin' (how damn old am I??)and having a ball doing so. It's fun and I didn't feel like I was exercising at all even though I was exhausted and sweating up a storm. I enjoyed it so much, that not only am I going to continue to take the class but Benita and I are going to hook up to combine messages and do a whole new workshop that incorporates sensual movement. Stay tuned, but in the meantime, if you haven't been introduced to Zumba, check out this and video then check out a class near you.

What Kind of Shoe Are You?

Click on this quiz and find out what kind of shoe you are.

Sensual Movement

One of the things occupying my time while I was away from my blog was the reality show, Dancing with the Stars. DWTS was definitely 'must see TV' for me this spring. I couldn't get enough of it. Sure, seeing the softer, feminine side of rapper Lil Kim was a draw, as was watching the sexy ass of Sex in the City's naked neighbor glide across the floor. Both had a lot to do with keeping me glued to my seat. But more than those two stars, I was mesmerized by the sheer sensuality and passionate nature of the movement.

In fact, going to Argentina and taking tango lessons is one of the items on my every growing 'bucket list.' Also on that list are belly dancing lessons. Both are, IMHO, two of the sexiest dances in the world. Because you see, there is dancing and then there is sensual dancing, and you know the difference the moment you see it. It really doesn't matter if it's choreographed ballroom dancing or just letting loose at club. Sensual movement radiates from within--it contains a fluidity and confidence that reveals the dancer's inner connection with her sensual self. It is the personification of one's sensuality and a outward show of a woman's feminine confidence. It's not vulgar or overtly sexual, but rather just a "damn that's sexy" way of moving.

I've stated a million times that sensuality is your enjoyment of the world and your own physicality as perceived by your senses. And when you live sensuously, it radiates, translating your sensory experiences into sensual expression and giving a sexy quality to the way you move--and dance--and telling the world that you are comfortable with your body and being you.

Sensuality is not a special talent or skill possessed by only some of us. We all have it, it's just a matter of rediscovering it, nurturing it, and applying it to every aspect of our lives, including the way we move about our world. So whether in the privacy of your own home or the gym or the club, become comfortable in expressing your sensuality and yourself through sensual movement.

Check out this list of sexy dances from around the world. Find classes in your area for those that speak to you. Please note that some of the information is outdated.

Sensual Sound Check

I love music, especially when what my ears hear makes my body smile. Nobody accomplishes this more for me than Maxwell. His music sings to my soul. Check out his his new single, Pretty Wings. First listen as you watch the very simple, but highly sexy video. Then listen again, but this time close your eyes and be very aware of how and where these silky sounds affect you most. Enjoy!

It's Been A Long Time

I know. I've been getting the same question for the past two months, "What happened to the blog? Where the hell have you been?" I am grateful for those of you who are following this blog and passing it along to your friends--please continue to do so--and I apologize for being M.I.A. since April. The past months have been tough for a variety of reasons from the death of my grandmother-in-law to the death of my computer to a writer's block that was unusual and unsettling. But I'm feeling better and in all honesty--one of the things that made this very hard time survivable was my sensuality and ability to lose myself and my troubles in the seasonal change. More on the healing power of sensual living to come...plus lots more on sensuality, sex and much more...soon, I promise!