Thursday, January 24, 2008

Take February 14th Back

Valentine’s Day is a lot more pressure-packed than most women care to admit. If you’re single and dateless, it becomes yet another depressing reminder that you’re alone. If you’re married and have been for years, the monotony of familiarity raises its ugly head and the pressure to take the old and make it new and sexy and exciting can be intimidating. Then there's the age old worry about the 'gift' and what it says about the state of your relationship.

Like I said, way too much pressure. Enough pressure that I'm going to devote the next few entries to Cupid's little holiday in hopes of helping you take ownership of the day and get that little winged baby off your back.

So single ladies...this one's for you. It’s time to take Valentine’s Day back! Celebrating the lover in you is just as important, just as legitimate, and can be just as enticing as celebrating the lover next to you. Here are a few tips to get you started.

1. Stop hatin' others. This applies to friends who have lovers; your ex who dropped you via email right after New Years; all the employees of Hallmark, Whitman Candies and 1-800-flowers combined; and most importantly YOURSELF for feeling like less of a woman because some florist association decided to pick February 14th as the one day of the year to cash in, and then picked a fat baby with wings and a bow and arrow as it's mascot, all without regard to how women without a significant other might feel (okay, I don't know the above to be fact but it sure feels that way and seems like a perfectly legitimate explanation).

2. Start lovin' yourself. Treat yourself to five star lover treatment. Get up in the morning and put on your sexiest draws and most flattering outfit. Get your hair done and make sure your makeup is flawless. Feel good about the lover in you all day. That evening, pull out all your treats from your sensual trick bag--the candles, champagne, rose petal bath--and let the one person you tell the least, know that you love her the most. Make special plans for yourself, complete with a gift (jewelry is always a good idea), just as you would the great love of your life. Because after all, aren't you? If not, you should be.

3. Start spreadin' the love. You know the sayings, 'you get back what you give', 'what goes around, comes around', 'like energy attracts like energy'. Let your Valentine's Day gift to others be a genuine smile and kind word to everyone you meet. Not only will you feel happier and great about yourself, you'll feel the love returned.

The true tragedy surrounding this holiday of hearts is that it forces you to pour all your attention and energy into one day when every day (or at least every other Tuesday) should be a holiday about sharing your heart and body with someone you love--especially when that someone is you.

What do you think?


Anonymous said...

I am in total agreement. I'm tired of feeling depressed because I don't have a boyfriend. I'M TAKING VALENTINES DAY BACK!

Brandi said...

Thank you for this post! Every year, the focus is always on how to treat your lover on Valentine's day. Well this year, I'm treating myself to a steak dinner, flowers and a bubble bath!